Friday, January 20, 2012

The Power of Conversation

Where did all the conversation go? When you were dating, you couldn't stop talking. Every moment yielded a new, fascinating tid-bit about your beloved. You couldn't get enough information about them.

Now, you sit on the couch together and watch TV while you both check Facebook. The conversation is limited to the menu, calendar and money. It's a complete change from what you used to have. Where did it go?

It's not gone, but just hibernating. The saying, "familiarity breeds contempt" is all too true. We don't value what we have every day. But you can inject the value back into your marriage. Have a conversation. It could be five minutes of your life. Stop watching TV and talk about what you saw. Ask questions about the characters. Discuss whether you like the plot. Or, you can use a tool like The Book of Questions to spark the conversation (Andrea and I love this book).

Once you have a five minute conversation, you'll find a renewed interest in your spouse. The person who shares the couch with you is still interesting and insightful.

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