Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Politics in Marriage

In marriage you share everything. You share a home, money, life and even politics. That's not something that people often talk about at the wedding ceremony. The officiant probably didn't say: "Dearly beloved, we are gathered here in the sight of God and men to figure out which political party is right on the issues." You didn't vow to stay married: for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in Republican primaries, until death do you part.

But once the ceremony is over, life starts to creep in. And, in a presidential election year, a part of that life is politics. Whether you're firmly political or staunchly apolitical, you have a stand on the issues and so does your spouse. If you share political views, that's great and it will probably help you to unite on other things in your marriage.

My father-in-law loved to say, "If two people agree on everything; one of them isn't necessary."

It's likely that you don't agree on every political issue. You might have the biggies in common, but there are bound to be differences. My wife, Andrea, and I are pretty close in our beliefs, but our differences led us to vote for different candidates in the last presidential election. We've talked about it, and we'll even get passionate about it. What we keep in mind, is that we aren't defined by our political views. Even though we come to different conclusions, we can still come together and find unity (even when we vote for different people).

How do you deal with politics in your marriage? What tips do you have for making the conversations smooth?

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